We have to remember that Jacob had good reason to dread his meeting with Esau. Years before, he had cheated Esau out of his birthright, and had stolen the blessing of his father, Isaac. That’s why, when they met again, Jacob humbled himself, calling himself Esau’s servant. That’s why Jacob prepared an elaborate and lavish gift of livestock to which he refers in verse 11, and which is described in 32:13-15. Gifts and humility are still appropriate gestures to make toward those whom we have hurt. But when others have hurt us, we have another model: the gracious forgiveness Esau gave to Jacob, the kind of forgiveness God has extended to all those undeserving sinners who trust in Christ. God has indeed been gracious to us, so can’t we be humble and gracious toward others?

4 And Esau ran to meet him, and embraced him, and fell on his neck, and kissed him: and they wept.
5 And he lifted up his eyes, and saw the women and the children; and said, Who are those with thee? And he said, The children which God hath graciously given thy servant.
6 Then the handmaidens came near, they and their children, and they bowed themselves.
7 And Leah also with her children came near, and bowed themselves: and after came Joseph near and Rachel, and they bowed themselves.
8 And he said, What meanest thou by all this drove which I met? And he said, These are to find grace in the sight of my lord.
9 And Esau said, I have enough, my brother; keep that thou hast unto thyself.
10 And Jacob said, Nay, I pray thee, if now I have found grace in thy sight, then receive my present at my hand: for therefore I have seen thy face, as though I had seen the face of God, and thou wast pleased with me.
11 Take, I pray thee, my blessing that is brought to thee; because God hath dealt graciously with me, and because I have enough. And he urged him, and he took it. (Gen. 33:4-11 KJV)